The title of this blog came from a friend telling me "this is not a fairy tale!". In a lot of ways, that is the mindset our world has. And with that, I decided long ago that life isn't a fairy tale and so I let go of a lot of dreams and desires I had. A lot of them related to dating. And now...this blog :)
He'd rag on me for posting this (Mr. anti social networking, haha!) but I am so incredibly thankful for Derrick Hobbs! I've never been treated with such respect and valued so much in my entire life! I feel like I have to share this because my view of dating and relationships had became so twisted in the past due to hearing the world tell me things like the above or "wake up sister, this is real life"....and I have to say that we as a society accept things that are just unacceptable. I could (and probably will before too long) write a few different blogs on dating and relationships with all that God has shown me in the past two years, but for today I just felt lead to share this.... SINGLES: do not settle! You should never date (and especially marry) anyone who doesn't treat you as you're worth, in God's eyes. You're not replaceable. You're not something that can be disposed of. Don't let anyone treat you that way. Male or Female. And you should never settle for what the world says "just is". Like "men will be men" or "that's just how it goes" or "that's how you play the game"... And for Christians, do not date a man/woman who isn't completely 100% in love with our Creator. That all may sound a little too picky in today's society haha But ladies I am here to tell you, guys like that do exist. And men, women like that exist. And when your dating relationship is centered around Christ it looks COMPLETELY different from the world's view of dating. And its a view that I'll never go back on. It's mind blowing how different "we" (today's society) do dating than the way God intended it. I could talk about that subject all night long, and I'm prayerfully considering writing more blogs and reaching out more on the issue, but tonight I have to stress that no, this really isn't a fairy tale. This IS real life. But...I finally chose to not accept the ways the world teaches and to make the standards in "real life", God's standards and not the world's. And in turn, I've gotten to know Derrick Hobbs. I am so incredibly grateful to know him and his heart for our Savior. And to have proof that dating doesn't have to be worldly. And I'm so thankful that I now have this view of dating so I can (hopefully) spare some singles a lot of heart ache. You are priceless. You are loved so much by our Creator that He died for you!! And you shouldn't settle for any man or woman who doesn't see you the way God does, and value and respect you. Not a Christian? Think about it this way, all relationships end in one of two ways. You either get married or you break up. And no one wants to marry someone who is disrespectful and treats you as something that is disposable. And if you are valued and treated with the utmost respect and the relationship doesn't work out, how much heart ache is that going to save each of you? This issue is so heavy on my heart lately. And the message I wanna shout to all singles (Christian or not) is don't accept the unacceptable!
